Love is Not a Feeling..

Love is not a feeling. What? You cry, of course, love is an emotion. I feel in my chest, stomach and my body trembled at times. Yes, it is the physiological manifestations when one has the feeling of "falling in love."


Love and love are two different phenomena. Falling in love can be a flash or the feelings of the first step toward genuine love. "Love is wrong to have feelings, is a state of consciousness, a way of being in the world, a way to see themselves and others." -David R. Hawkins


Falling in love is an instinctive attraction strong people. If it is mutual and both people working relationship, one day, that euphoric experience called "love" can grow in authentic love.


The craze phenomena is an appeal to nostalgia cathectic to hear that, but the object is instinctively chosen according to our ideals, dreams and so on, although you may not realize it. In general, we fall in love with the look of the person, how he she walks, how he she speaks. Sometimes we impose our goal to love a mysterious illusion, the ideal qualities and we get to know the person, the less we fall for him or her. That's when the feeling of love disappears even faster than it seemed.


The other two people know each other, the more comfortable they get, the less strong, bright and exciting experience of falling in love. Some couples continue their relationships and get married, some are collapsing. It is reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and a toothbrush, a bathroom addition is the end of the fall phase of love, but can also be the beginning of genuine love.


The feeling of euphoria we call "love" is the emotion that accompanies the experience cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important for one person. Once invested, the subject, often referred to as a "love object" of energy that is spent like a part of himself, and the relationship between the self and the object is called investiture invested. An endowment may be ephemeral and temporary. True love involves commitment and the exercise of wisdom. When one is concerned with the spiritual and emotional growth of someone, we know that lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that the commitment of that person is probably necessary for one concerned with efficiency. The concern and commitment to each other in the spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. Therefore, commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, friends, family, husband / wife.


True love transcends the issue of investiture. When love is, it's with or without investment and with or without a sense of self-bursts of butterflies in the stomach, tingling, etc.


It is easier, yes, it's exciting to have sex with Cathexis and the euphoric feeling of love. However, it is possible to love without condition and without Cathexis, and it is in the performance of this opportunity for true love and transcendent differs from Cathexis simple. Genuine love is voluntary rather than emotional euphoria. The person who really likes to do because of "the decision to love." This person has made a commitment to "love," if the feelings of love are present.


It can be difficult and painful for signs of love in our actions, but because true love is an act which exceeds the volatile emotions of love or Cathexis, you can say, "Love is like love it. " Love and not love the good and evil, is objective and not purely subjective phenomena.